I am What I am

Pursuit of Happiness

2009-10-05T19:09:00.000-07:00

Remember the movie "Pursuit of Happiness" ? if you're a fan of Will Smith's movies..pasti tahu tentang film yang satu ini. Sebuah film (which based on a true story) yang menceritakan perjuangan seorang ayah dan anaknya (kebetulan diperankan oleh anaknya will smith sendiri) untuk mencoba bertahan one day at a time. If you have seen the movie..i bet all of you wish that you have the strength that he has..survive from one shelter to another..even they had to sneak into the toilet of a subway just to get some sleep. The persistance and how much he loves his son that kept him going foward.

I remember where there is a scene in the movie...He said to his son : "Son, if you want something..then GO GET IT!!.."

gw jadi berpikir dan bertanya pada diri sendiri..."is this the life that i want to live for the rest of my life?"

And gw bertanya lagi: "what do i really want in this life ? what is my purpose ?"

dan ternyata..setelah gw look back again through my enitre life..all my life..i never SAID what i want..only being pulled out from one direction to another direction...

My friend told me one:"My life is like a zombi...go to work...then go to the class after work..then go back to home...it's repeated over and over..."

That situation is precisely what happen to me also..which came to my senses..i never spent enough time to really understand myself..it seems..people always told me what is best for me..what is good for me..what is right and what is wrong..

apa mereka yang lebih tau apa yang baik..yang benar..yang bagus..?? this is my life..my pursuit of happiness..

My lecturer once disscuss about escalation of commitment.."if you already half way down...and you can't pull back or go back..then..you must commit to what you did..it's the most logical think that you have to do..."

but down the road...many turbulance and many waves that could wipe you away from your path...

it's true..that happened to me..i've been pull back into so many directions until i got lost..

but, all the process that i have been through..only to show that...if you don't have the GUTS to do of what you believe in..then you will get lost..the one to blame if you are lost is...YOURSELF!!

Just remember..life is short..don't take it for granted...you are the captain of your boat..

"they are great sailors but that because they have conquered great waves..so without great waves..there woudn't be any great sailors"

Are You Man Enough To Be A Man ?

2009-10-04T23:54:00.000-07:00

What is good for them

maybe can bring good for us too

so, what's wrong with trying to be better ?

Be a better person..Be a better Man

(artikel ini bisa dibaca oleh wanita atau pria)

How To Be A Man

What does it mean to be a man today? How can men consciously express their masculinity without becoming cold or closed-hearted on the one hand… or wimpy and emasculated on the other? What’s the most loving way for a conscious man to express himself?

Here are 10 ways to live more consciously as a man:

1. Make real decisions.

A man understands and respects the power of choice. He lives a life of his own creation. He knows that life stagnates when he fails to decide and flourishes when he chooses a clear path.

When a man makes a decision, he opens the door he wants and closes the doors he doesn’t want. He locks onto his target like a guided missile. There’s no guarantee he’ll reach his target, and he knows this, but he doesn’t need such guarantees. He simply enjoys the sense of inevitability that comes from pushing the launch button.

A man doesn’t require the approval of others. He’s willing to follow his heart wherever it leads him. When a man is following his heart-centered path, it’s of little consequence if the entire world is against him.

2. Put your relationships second.

A man who claims his #1 commitment in life is his relationship partner (or his family) is either too dishonest or too weak to be trusted. His loyalties are misplaced. A man who values individuals above his own integrity is a wretch, not a free thinker.

A man knows he must commit to something greater than satisfying the needs of a few people. He’s not willing to be domesticated, but he is willing to accept the responsibility that comes with greater challenges. He knows that when he shirks that duty, he becomes something less than a man. When others observe that the man is unyieldingly committed to his values and ideals, he gains their trust and respect, even when he cannot gain their direct support. The surest way for a man to lose the respect of others (as well as his self-respect) is to violate his own values.

Life will test the man to see if he’s willing to put loyalty to others ahead of loyalty to his principles. The man will be offered many temptations to expose his true loyalties. A man’s greatest reward is to live with integrity, and his greatest punishment is what he inflicts upon himself for placing anything above his integrity. Whenever the man sacrifices his integrity, he loses his freedom… and himself as well. He becomes an object of pity.

3. Be willing to fail.

A man is willing to make mistakes. He’s willing to be wrong. He’d rather try and fail than do nothing.

A man’s self-trust is one of his greatest assets. When he second-guesses himself by worrying about failure, he diminishes himself. An intelligent man considers the prospect of failure, but he doesn’t preoccupy himself with pointless worry. He accepts that if a failure outcome occurs, he can deal with it.

A man grows more from failure than he does from success. Success cannot test his resolve in the way that failure can. Success has its challenges, but a man learns more about himself when he takes on challenges that involve risk. When a man plays it safe, his vitality is lost, and he loses his edge.

4. Be confident.

A man speaks and acts with confidence. He owns his attitude.

A man doesn’t adopt a confident posture because he knows he’ll succeed. He often knows that failure is a likely outcome. But when the odds of success are clearly against him, he still exudes confidence. It isn’t because he’s ignorant or suffering from denial. It’s because he’s proving to himself that he has the strength to transcend his self-doubt. This builds his courage and persistence, two of his most valuable allies.

A man is willing to be defeated by the world. He’s willing to be taken down by circumstances beyond his control. But he refuses to be overwhelmed by his own self-doubt. He knows that when he stops trusting himself, he is surely lost. He’ll surrender to fate when necessary, but he won’t surrender to fear.

5. Express love actively.

A man is an active giver of love, not a passive receiver. A man is the first to initiate a conversation, the first to ask for what’s needed, and the first to say “I love you.” Waiting for someone else to make the first move is unbecoming of him. The universe does not respond positively to his hesitation. Only when he’s in motion do the floodgates of abundance open.

Man is the out-breath of source energy. It is his job — his duty — to share his love with the world. He must wean himself from suckling the energy of others and become a vibrant transmitter of energy himself. He must allow that energy to flow from source, through him, and into the world. When he assumes this role, he has no doubt he is living as his true self.

6. Re-channel sex energy.

A man doesn’t hide his sexuality. If others shrink from him because he’s too masculine, he allows them to have their reaction. There’s no need for him to lower his energy just to avoid frightening the timid. A man accepts the consequences of being male; he makes no apologies for his nature.

A man is careful not to allow his energy to get stuck at the level of lust. He re-channels much of his sexual energy into his heart and head, where it can serve his higher values instead of just his animal instincts. (You can do this by visualizing the energy rising, expanding, and eventually flowing throughout your entire body and beyond.)

A man channels his sexual energy into his heart-centered pursuits. He feels such energy pulsing within him, driving him to action. He feels uncomfortable standing still. He allows his sexual energy to explode through his heart, not just his genitals.

7. Face your fears.

For a man, being afraid of something is reason enough to do it. A man’s fear is a call to be tested. When a man hides from his fears, he knows he’s fallen out of alignment with his true self. He feels weak, depressed, and helpless. No matter how hard he tries to comfort himself and achieve a state of peace, he cannot overcome his inner feeling of dread. Only when facing his fears does a man experience peace.

A man makes a friend of risk. He doesn’t run and hide from the tests of fear. He turns toward them and engages them boldly.

A man succeeds or fails. A coward never makes the attempt. Specific outcomes are of less concern to a man than his direction.

A man feels like a man whenever he faces the right way, staring straight into his fears. He feels even more like a man when he advances in the direction of his fears, as if sailing on the winds of an inner scream.

8. Honor the masculinity of other men.

When a man sees a male friend undertaking a new venture that will clearly lead to failure, what does the man do? Does he warn his friend off such a path? No, the man encourages his friend to continue. The man knows it’s better for his friend to strike out confidently and learn from the failure experience. The man honors his friend’s decision to reach out and make the attempt. The man won’t deny his friend the benefits of a failure experience. The man may offer his friend guidance, but he knows his friend must fail repeatedly in order to develop self-trust and courage.

When you see a man at the gym struggling to lift a heavy weight, do you jump in and say, “Here… let me help you with that. Maybe the two of us can lift it together”? No, that would rob him of the growth experience — and probably make a quick enemy of him as well.

The male path is filled with obstacles. It typically includes more failures than successes. These obstacles help a man discover what’s truly important to him. Through repeated failures a man learns to persist in the pursuit of worthy goals and to abandon goals that are unworthy of him.

A man can handle being knocked down many times. For every physical setback he experiences, he enjoys a spiritual advancement, and that is enough for him.

9. Accept responsibility for your relationships.

A man chooses his friends, lovers, and associates consciously. He actively seeks out the company of people who inspire and challenge him, and he willingly sheds those who hold him back.

A man doesn’t blame others for his relationship problems. When a relationship is no longer compatible with his heart-centered path, he initiates the break-up and departs without blame or guilt.

A man holds himself accountable for the relationships he allows into his life. He holds others accountable for their behavior, but he holds himself accountable for his decision to tolerate such behavior.

A man teaches others how to treat him by the relationships he’s willing to allow into his life. A man refuses to fill his life with negative or destructive relationships; he knows that’s a form of self-abuse.

10. Die well.

A man’s great challenge is to develop the inner strength to express his true self. He must learn to share his love with the world without holding back. When a man is satisfied that he’s done that, he can make peace with death. But if he fails to do so, death becomes his enemy and haunts him all the days of his life.

A man cannot die well unless he lives well. A man lives well when he accepts his mortality and draws strength from knowing that his physical existence is temporary. When a man faces and accepts the inevitability of death… when he learns to see death as his ally instead of his enemy… he’s finally able to express his true self. So a man isn’t ready to live until he accepts that he’s already dead.

Nobar Yuk ??!

2009-10-04T18:35:00.000-07:00

Bagi lo semua yang suka nonton bola..definitely should try this!!! Gw adalah supporter dan penggemar fanatik klub sepakbola di Inggris..apa klub gw ? well.. "some say i'm a dreamer..but i'm not the only one..believe..that"

"You'll Never Walk Alone"

..udah tau klubnya apa? Liverpool fc..yep..that's the one and only..

So, last night was my first experience watching the footbal game together with other liverpudlians (sebutan untuk supporter liverpool)..and i've never done this before.. salah satu impian gw yang belum kesampean adalah menonton langsung pertandingan di Anfield(nama stadium liverpool)..

- This is Anfield -

Jadi di dunia ini..yang bisa bikin gw iri adalah mereka yang tinggal di Liverpool.. kenapa ? karena mereka bisa nonton semua pertandingan LIVE!!! yes.. gw, bisa nonton satu pertandingan live langsung satu kaliii aja..udah priceless banget pasti...and them?? can you imagine?? it's like you live in heaven(re: my heaven) all the time!!!!!

ok.ok..jadi lo semua mungkin ngerasain apa yang gw rasain sebagai sesama supporter klubnya masing-masing.. iya kan? apa cuma gw doank ya??..hmm..we'll talk about it later..hehe

Ternyata, gw baru tau..kita gak usah pergi kesana jauh-jauh...hanya untuk merasakan "how does it feel" nonton live langsung...there is a realistic way (re: cheaper way) for us... bagaimana?? ya itu..NONTON BARENG!!! that's right..gw ngomong begini karena gw udah ngerasain sendiri!!!! it's really amazing how they make you feel..pertama nih..pas gw dateng ke tempat nonton bareng nya..you know what i saw?? they all wear the same cloths...really...my first impression was...wow..i think i just found my own anfield in here.. and the spirit of the game is very vibrant and UNREAL dude!! i want to say a big "thanks" to those guy that make me feel home..

All the yell..all the cheering for the entire game..just as same when you watch it live at anfield.. and we want the same thing..we MOCK the same person..we talk shit any way we want to.. and yeahhh.. WE STAND TOGETHER as we were watching live concert..

But, sayangya..karena tadi malem liverpool kalah..we didn't get what we came for..emang yang namanya menang..pasti harus ada yang kalah...and.. suddenly..pas game udah menit-menit terakhir..we keep cheering and singing our own anthem..that's make me feel..hmm..gimana ya? mellow si nggak..cumen..that's what make it so memorable..i really enjoy watching the game like that..dan kayanya last night adalah buat yang pertama kali dari sekian ribu kali yang akan datang..

Gw pasti akan NONTON BARENG lagi dengan mereka.. YOU WILL SEE!!!

Quotes.. Love & Romance

2009-10-02T21:37:00.000-07:00

You can give without loving,
but you cannot love without giving....Amy Carmichael

I love you, not for what you are,
but for what I am when I am with you....Roy Croft.

True love stories never have endings....Unknown.

Immature love says: "I love you because I need you."
Mature love says: "I need you because I love you."....Erich Fromm.

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.”

Paul Boese

“The work will wait while you show the child the rainbow but the rainbow won't wait while you do the work.” Unknown

“The less we look with our eyes, the more we will see with our hearts.”

Lyndsey Albrecht

“You know it's love when you can't fall asleep because reality is better than your dreams.”

Unknown

“Nobody is perfect until you fall in love with them.”

Unknown

“Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.”

Joseph Addison

“A friend is one who knows us, but loves us anyway.”

Fr. Jerome Cummings

Why Twitter is more powerfull than Facebook ?

2009-10-01T02:35:00.000-07:00

I think this is an interesting question : Why twitter is more powerfull than facebook?
but first, gw mau ngajak lo semua untuk sedikit melihat sejarah twitter itu sendiri...asal muasal pertamanya twitter itu gimana ya? ada yang tau ? well..you can look for anything these days as long as you can use the internet. Ini yang gw dapet dari wikipedia..twitter itu konsepnya berasal dari sms..it's like text message with your phone..that's right..it's really a simple concept. buzzing your friend's pocket..and then..buzzing the whole world...

Tapi, karena sms hanya bisa lewat handphone..ide mereka adalah..kita bisa mengirim message dimanapun kita berada..hmm..like worldwideweb.message.com..and another important thing is only a small member of group that have been decide to receive it..so, you choose the person you want to share with.

Kalo liat di kamus, definiton of twitter is "a short burst of inconsequential information" and "chirps from birds."
You already know now why twitter put "small bird" in their logo right ?? that should answer your question.

Balik ke pertanyaan tadi...jadi kenapa gw bilang twitter itu more powefull than facebook ?
well...i'll breakdown to points in answering that :
1. Twitter itu terbatas 140 karakter..but itu justru bikin kita menulis lebih hati2 dan lebih efisien kan dalam menulis..tidak sembarang nulis lah intinya..
2. Karena terbatas, kita jadi lebih fokus dan terarah untuk membuat status..it becomes more of your thoughts or your way of thinking
3. live updates from twitter beat the hell out the media..sometimes..we know it first than them
4. adanya trending topics membuat kita bisa menyerukan pada dunia dan membuat mereka notice who we are
5. kita bisa "follow" (istilah twitter : mengenal lebih dekat) dengan siapapun yang kita mau..asalkan mereka juga punya tentunya..hehe (kecuali lo bisa sulap..)
6. i love this quote : You are What You tweet..kita jadi bisa tau jalan pikiran lo..dan itu bisa menjadi input buat kita juga.

Gw merasa ini saja sudah cukup untuk membedakan antara twitter dengan facebook...bahkan facebook sekarang mulai takut dengan booming twitter yang sangat cepat sekali..even they try to copy one of the twitter features..yes.. @mentions...the thing is...without mentions..facebook is already have it..twitter use @mentions karena biar tidak usah melihat capek2 timeline nya.. kalo facebook kan tinggal nulis aja di wall orang tersebut...rebes kan?? beres toh ?

That's it..i think i'm going to puke right now...babbling all these stuff..which i think it doesn't make any sense at all..right ??right ??
but..i'm sure...until now..twitter is still more powerfull...than "you know what"

Padang..Kampung Halamanku...

2009-09-30T18:54:00.000-07:00

Iya..mungkin dari judulnya...kita semua sudah tahu apa yang terjadi disana. Indonesia akhir-akhir ini dihantam oleh gempa beberapa kali..dan gempa yang terjadi di Sumatera Barat adalah gempa yang sangat devastating..7.6 Skala Ritcher.
First of all, gw pernah tinggal di padang sekitar 3 tahun..and it's really amazing city..yang paling memorable adalah pemandangan alamnya..subhanallah..breath taking indahnya. Itulah mengapa gw sedih mendengar dan melihat bagaimana hal itu langsung berubah dalam sekejap. God is testing us..
Second, karena gw juga keturunan padang (from my mother side)..jadi gw merasa kampung halaman gw sepertinya lagi di acak-acak oleh pencuri...imagine your home sweet home is been turn upside down by unknown person..tapi itu cuma analogi gw aja untuk describe perasaan gw melihat keadaan disana..i know deep inside..you feel like screaming..angry..but at the same time..feeling guilty too..
when i watched the news..all that i can see are tears of people..crying for their homes..their love ones..who may or may not see their faces again..
Last but not least, hidup itu penuh cobaan..tapi, cobaan itu akan menjadikan kita untuk menjadi yang lebih baik, lebih menghargai dan bersyukur atas segala sesuatu yang telah kita miliki..sekecil apapun..
So..make it worth everyday of your every single moment..